We are continuing in the sharing of wisdom from those experienced in marriage. The question is what would you share with an engaged couple or a couple newly married if you only had a few minutes to share? Today’s answer comes from a dear friend married more than 25 years who still has a child at home. She has moved across the country with her family not once but twice plus a few other moves that weren’t quite as drastic. She and her husband enjoy life and people. You can’t be with them long without sharing some laughs.
Her first thoughts were to “spend time becoming the woman or man of God that you desire in the person you will marry someday.” In my words, take time to become yourself. Develop the characteristics you are looking for in a mate in yourself first.
Secondly, she added “friendship, friendship, friendship get to know each other, meet each other’s friends, and spend time together. Meet each other’s families and spend time together. Ask questions and be willing to be very vulnerable. forgiving and communicating are two things that are essential to a healthy relationship. Resolving conflict is too!
The next thought seems unnecessary. After all do we really need to think about having fun? She says yes! “Having fun comes easy in the dating relationship and in the early part of marriage but then the growing responsibilities of work, taking care of a home, raising children, etc. can push that to the back burner. Don’t ever stop working on keeping the fun component in your relationship.”
Lastly, “One piece of advice that seems so simple but has tremendous benefit… After you are married greet your spouse at the door when they come home from wherever they’ve been. Oh there’s so much more!”