This Monday has me thinking about marriage and the interesting position we live out as married couples. We are two individuals melded into one. We are a couple. Why? I’ve come to believe we are a much deeper, more well rounded person when we allow ourselves to become one with our mate. We experience things with a broader or different perspective than if we did it alone. We try things when we are with them that we probably wouldn’t try if we were alone. Mark and I always think of the time we went to Europe with several other couples. We got lost nearly every day but it wasn’t a scary, bad thing. We laughed and it became the day’s adventure. Why? Because there was a group of us. We knew we would be okay. We were not alone! Many times since then Mark and I have had things happen leaving us feeling lost. However, we knew from past experience that being lost could be an adventure if we would let it. More importantly, it could be an adventure if we didn’t let fear take over.
Over the past two weeks I have spent more time with my parents than I have in years. I’ve learned alot about both of them. After 48 years of marriage, Mom, even with her Alzheimer’s filled mind, knows my Dad and she knows that she would like to be with him. At first she talked of going home and she still does at times but the main thing she talks of is being with Dad. She doesn’t care if he stays with her or she goes with him. She just wants to be together. Why? Because he represents love and security to her. And Dad, well his heart breaks every time he walks out the door and leaves her there. He tells me how special she is to him and how he just wants her to be happy. Why? Because she represents a full life to him. He tells me how she showed him determination and exposed him to art and beauty in a way he had not seen it before. He makes sure that I notice that even now she always wants to share whatever she has and tells me that she is always that way. Together their life is richer, fuller, full of love.
This is a great example for me. Who am I in my marriage? Do I fully appreciate all that my husband has brought to my life? I have always said life with Mark has brought me “higher highs and lower lows” than I could have imagined. That is a true statement, and there is so much more. His ability to think “outside the box” has helped me try things I know I would not have without him! What have you experienced in your life that you might not have if your spouse had not been a part of your life?
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