Marriage Monday – Today or Yesterday?

Numbers. We’ve been married 32 years now. My parents would have been married 49 or 50 years – I always get confused. My in-laws, 55 years this fall. Our daughter would have been married 11 years to her first husband Saturday. She said that “sounded like a long time.” When he died of cancer 4-1/2 years after they were married I remember thinking, Mark wanted to be married 5 years. Didn’t quite make that goal but he did accomplish a lot of life in only a few years.

That’s what I’m thinking about today. Are you really living today? Are you enjoying who and what is in front of you today? Are you off to work? I am and I am very fortunate to have a job.  More importantly to me though are the people in my life, starting with my husband. 32 years, wow. That’s great but I want many more. We’ve traveled a lot of paths, being the older siblings in his family, younger in mine. We’ve done the “kid thing”, the “career thing”, battled some injuries and depression, rejoiced through graduations and weddings, learned new skills, moved several times and we’ve done it together. It wasn’t and isn’t always “pretty” but we have more than survived. We are thriving. Does our 32 years seem like “a long time?” Yes, and no.  I’m grateful I’ve had 32 years with my spouse but I’m more excited about the possibilities of today than I am our history, because that is just what it is, history.

Are you living in the present? What can you appreciate about your spouse today? We’re having fun looking for a new word to use to tell each other that we think they are GREAT! Presently I’m liking “stellar.” What word could you use to tell your spouse they are STELLAR?