My husband took a couple of days off and went with me to babysit our Granddaughter who lives 4 hours away from us. This was our very first time to do this, a new adventure! While driving there we noticed the trees are just beginning to change color. Fall is arriving and summer is on it’s way out.
While there we took turns just soaking in the smiles, wiggles, coos and soft skin of this precious new baby in our life. It was fun to see our daughter and son-in-law in their own environment filling this new role in their lives. They’ve made many adjustments already. There is baby equipment all through the house. Laundry needs done more often. Getting supper fixed often really does take both of them, one to care for the baby while the other cooks.
Seasons in relationships change repeatedly just like they do in nature. There are natural cycles and changes caused by our own decisions. This new season in our life, grand-parenting is bringing joy and thoughtful reflection. Friends of ours who are a step ahead of us in this grand-parenting season have challenged us to think about what we would like to pass on to our grand-daughter and future grandchildren. They asked us to think of one or two things we would purposefully “plant” into our grandchildren. For one of them it was the love of God and photography. After some thought for me it will be the love of God and reading/learning. My husband hasn’t “officially” shared his decision yet but the love of music will no doubtedly be there.
Why would I bring this up on “Marriage Monday”? Because any change in our life effects our relationship. Relationship changes have to be recognized and dealt with together. The birth of our grand-daughter means there is a new priority in our life. Priorities take time. We now have to decide, together, how we are going to handle this. We need to communicate and cooperate. The fact that she lives 4 hours away adds time and planning to our desire to know her and be a part of her life. That means we have to be willing to take that time. Adjustments to our calendar are being made, again we have to do this together. This trip was needed for babysitting prior to the regular daycare being in place. When I agreed to go several weeks ago Mark did not know his work schedule. We talked it through and decided that I could go even if he could not so we made the commitment. As the time rolled around Mark decided that if I waited and left around lunchtime on the day of departure he could go with me. It was well worth the wait to see him interact with this precious baby.
What is your current season of life? How do you communicate and cooperate to make the most of this time?